Monday, July 10, 2006

Attraction.


"You'd be surprised what you would have sex with." -Mary Campbell

Somehow, I managed to utter those words tonight to a friend as we were discussing the ever-changing laws of attraction. I'm not sure exactly why I thought that little tidbit of wisdom was worthy of any airtime, but these days, I am constantly surprising myself. My theory is this: sure, physical attraction is important...you don't want to be physically repelled by a potential dating candidate, but, at some point, it becomes irrelevant. I really believe that attraction is about a mental/emotional/spiritual connection that exists between two people...and trust. I know I have dated people I thought were extremely attractive and, after time, once they revealed their true selves...the attraction faded. On the other hand, I have met people who, initially, I was not attracted to but once I got to know them, there was definitely an attraction that developed. So I'm curious. What are the self-defined laws of attraction that we all create for ourselves? What makes someone worthy of your affections?

7 comments:

Tania Rochelle said...

No, it never becomes irrelevant. But your idea of what is attractive might change.

I'm wildly attracted to Lyle Lovett, hardly a specimen of classic male beauty.

And I used to think my ex-husband was gorgeous. Now I find him repugnant.

Anne-Davnes said...

For me the most attractive quality a man can have is how good of a listener is. I also find hands very attractive. Nice ones.

MCALDWELLC said...

Good hands, good eyes and good teeth are a rule for me. I think compassion and intelligence are super important, too...I want to know someone can keep up with me and challenge me, too. A positive outlook...despite it all, to "believe in the goodness of mankind" as Anne Frank says...all very important. It's about the details of a person...as they say, God is in the details.

Anne-Davnes said...

Some money's nice, too.

Oh! And someone who will not smother you.
One who cherishes your freedom and what's yours
as much as you do. One who is willing to work with you, create good things.

One who is a baker of cookies.

Doesn't mind cleaning the cat box.

And adores the way you look in the morning. Bad hair, sheet-marked puffy cheeks and all.

: )

Roger said...

"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you"
- Jimmy Soul

Jimmy spit the truth. And I think it's be hard for any very attractive person to have an equally attractive personality for an extended period of time. And I agree with Tania on all of her points. And I agree with Anne about one who is a baker of cookies.

MCALDWELLC said...

I disagree, Roger...I think equality is what we all seek to achieve in relationships...Not necessarily "same-ness" but equality...I think that is what makes a relationship last...

Anne-Davnes said...

Wasn't it Ron White who said "You can't fix stupid."?

Marry brains before beauty because beauty will always fade and can be improved. But stupid's a personality trait that you can't really fix. One becomes that even thinking they can.